10/06/2026
Just a little note right from my heart ❤️
I think one of the hardest parts of owning a business is realizing how easy it is for people to create a whole story about you based on what they see from the outside.
They see a beautiful restaurant.
They see lines out the door.
They see me smiling.
They see the things I’ve poured into making this place special.
And somehow on an anonymous online thread: (from her own community) She must be making so much money. She’s so greedy. Oh, she’s so rude…boycott her!
And I wish people understood how far from the truth the things they say can be & how mean they really are, but feel it’s ok because “I’m rich” or “popular” or something.
Here’s the actual truth.
I was never the “rich” one or the “popular” one. I was the teen mom one. The one in the addict home…that one. The one without a Mom. Yep that’s “her”.
And more truth ♥️
There are months I barely pay myself. There are times I don’t take a paycheck at all. There are months when my own rent is stressful while I’m making sure everyone else gets paid.
Because when money comes into this business, I am last on the list.
That beautiful restaurant people see?
That’s where the money went.
The experience you have when you walk through the door?
That’s where the money went.
The staff being paid better than they might be somewhere else doing the same work?
That’s where the money went.
I don’t say any of this for sympathy. I chose this. I love what has been built, and I’m incredibly proud of it and I am so grateful and always humbled.
There are days I just sit and cry in disbelief that I have this beautiful space.
Then I stand up from those tears and I am seeing people tear apart my character online and call me greedy when they have absolutely no idea what happens behind the scenes. It just hurts.
Because you can see a line out the door and still not know what’s in the bank account.
You can see a beautiful space and not realize the owner put the money back into the walls instead of into her own pocket.
You can see someone smiling and assume everything must be easy.
It isn’t. Worth it. Yes. Easy heck noooo!!
We’re not sitting somewhere getting rich off of this place. Most of the time, we’re the last people to get anything from it. There isn’t a soul getting “rich” here. At least not from money. Maybe rich in love and joy but not cash….lol
I built something beautiful because I wanted people to experience something beautiful. But mostly because the calling was SO LOUD I couldn’t ignore it.
I wanted good food. A beautiful space. A team that is valued. A place people want to come back to. Yessss all those things…but also that Vision….those dreams…so strong and so loud that you just had to pursue. Give up everything and just pursue.
So when you look around and think, wow, she must have so much! Yes, you’re looking at exactly where it went.
I am rich in a life I love. I am rich in purpose. I am rich in getting to create something that means something to me. And yes, I am happy. I will never apologize for this. I have went through a lot for this life. A lot. Most of us true entrepreneurs often do.
If you ever want to know who I am..guess what?
You can actually see how big my heart is. It’s laid out all around you. Every curated room, chair, pretty plate, lovely picture, laugh, smile, celebrations here, or how I maintain happiness and joy through constant opposition and struggle.
So before you jump online and tear apart a small business owner you don’t actually know especially one who is still in the building, working, operating, worrying, paying people, fixing things and carrying the weight of it all praying oh Lord so much praying!! Just to keep the call and the dream alive….. maybe think twice. Maybe three times.
You see what is built.
You don’t always see what it costs to keep building it.
Small business owners are human beings. Please please JUST LEAVE HER ALONE ♥️
Xo,
Pamela
