Playing Chicken With A Speeding Life

Playing Chicken With A Speeding Life This blog is the Memoirs of a misspent youth. It wasn't all cherries, but it was never boring.

The Ghetto, Yeh Right Pt.2When I left last time we were leading up to a mysterious event happening on a mysterious day. ...
07/03/2023

The Ghetto, Yeh Right Pt.2

When I left last time we were leading up to a mysterious event happening on a mysterious day.
My Mom and I had moved in with my Grandparents and everything was right in my four year old life.
But waiting for this big event was driving me crazy!
Even singing "The Song That Never Ends" with Sherrie Lewis and Lamb chop couldn't sooth me.
But one morning there was so much tension and nervous energy corsing through our house that I just knew today was the day for whatever was coming.
I put my Annie Oakley outfit on complete with cowboy hat and cowboy boots, and stopped my grandma long enough to put my hair in pigtails.
Then I parked myself in the green swivel chair in front of our massive plate glass window that looked out over what seemed to me to be the whole world.
At night we could see the lights of San Francisco and the Bay Bridge.
But today all I wanted to see was what was coming up our hill.
I sat in that chair till I damn near p*ed my pants, and of course timing being what it is, as soon as I got on the pot I heard my Mom and my Grandpa yelling "They're here!! They're here!!"
I took care of business as fast as I could and raced back to the window.
A huge moving truck was lumbering into the yard, and behind it was a smaller car.
It took me a second to see who was in the car, and when I did I took off screaming out the front door!!
It was my Aunt Lori (really Gloria) and my cousins Rick, Randy and Rusty!!
I didn't know why they were here instead of Fullerton where they lived, and I didn't care.
We must have stood out there for a half hour laughing and crying and hugging before my Grandpa sheparded is into the house.
Over lunch I learned that my uncle, mean drunk that he was had finally crossed the line and my aunt had finally had enough and had left him.
Of course all the good parts of the story were in German, but I got the jist.
It was decided that my aunt and my cousins would live with us, as the occupancy of 1645 Beau Rivage Ave. Instantly rose from three to eight.
My Mom and Aunt Lori would sleep in the second bedroom, and us four kids would sleep on the Castro Convertible sofa in the front room.
We slept head to toe, every night getting in trouble for laughing (or "gushnothering" as my Grandma would yell down the hall.
My Grandma ran our house like a well oiled machine.
At 5:30 am she got up, made my Grandpa a huge breakfast, stuffed his black metal lunchbox, filled his thermos with hot coffee and sent him packing.
At 6 she rousted my Mom and Aunt out of bed, made them breakfast while they got ready for work, packed them a bag lunch and they were ready to roll by 8:00am.
Then she fed all of us, got us dressed and planted us in front of Captain Kangaroo so she could start on the house, which was immaculate I might add.
She washed, hung clothes, ironed, cleaned the bathroom and kitchen.
We watched game shows, colored, painted and seemed to be constantly under my poor Grandma's feet.
She took a break when her "programs" came on, and afterwards we were put down for a nap. One or more of us got in trouble for fooling around instead of napping, but somehow she got us to sleep.
I'd have given us all of us a shot of whiskey and made done with it.
By the time my Grandpa, my Mom and my Aunt got home from work, dinner was ready.
We were all in our jammies by eight, and enjoyed an hour of family TV time before calling it a night.
There's so many stories of the Beau Rivage 8 to be told it isn't even funny.
But I'll get there.
A few years ago my sister and I were talking about those days, all of which she missed by not being born yet, and she said in her holier then thou voice, "Well, if you lived like that now, you'd be called "Ghetto", like I've never been called worse!
I don't really care what they would have called us! I loved living all together. I never felt neglected or uncared for.
We had a roof over our heads, a huge yard to run around in, food to eat and clothes to wear.
I had my cousins to play with and watch cartoons together, and of course Rick and I joined forces. What one of us didn't think of, the other one did. These little escapades usually didn't end well, but that didn't stop us.
What I remember most is the closeness and the love that bounced off every wall of that house.
We had each other, and that was the best part of all.
Of course as time went on, My Aunt and my Mom got remarried and we moved out of Grandpa and Grandma's house.
Into the same apartment building, right next door to each other, a whopping 10 minutes from 1645 Beau Rivage Ave.
And that was fine with me.
And if that was Ghetto.....and if I could go back, I'd live in that Ghetto tell the day I die.

06/30/2023

Ok, Memoirs is to hard to navigate, so we're all moving to Playing Chicken With A Sp*eding Life. I sent out new invites, so if you happen, by some higher power to see the latest post, please let me know.
I hope this works. I don't want to be 80 and still trying to write this book with old, knarled hands.
I wrote a new post tonight. I hope some of you get to read it.

06/30/2023

Ok...I gave up on Memoirs. I can't get any help from the tech department or anyone else.
So we're all moving to "Playing Chicken With A Sp*eding Life."
If that doesn't work, I'm going to have a frontal lobotomy.
So head over, see if you're able to see my latest post and let me know.
If this works, I'll send another round of invites, I'll be able to write my little rememberances on a steady basis and life will be good.
Thank you so much!

In The Ghetto....yeh, rightMy s***m donor left my Mom and I when I was three.In fact I'm the one who blew the whistle on...
06/30/2023

In The Ghetto....yeh, right

My s***m donor left my Mom and I when I was three.
In fact I'm the one who blew the whistle on the whole sabang.
I didn't mean to, but s***m donor would use taking me somewhere as an excuse to get out of the house.
And where would the stupid ass take me? To his red nosed drunk assed girlfriend Rita's house.
At first I didn't know what was going on, but when I walked into the kitchen unannounced and caught Daddy-O and Red Nosed Rita with their tongues down each other's throats, I knew som**hing wasn't quite kosher.
They about flew to opposite ends of the room when they finally discovered me standing there.
Of course we left, but we didn't go home right away.
Oh no! We stopped at Moo's Ice Cream for a double scoop mint chocolate come, we went to Nichol Park for me to play, and topped it off at Woolworths for a couple of toys.
The whole time Daddy-O was falling all over himself to convince me that men and women can just be friends, and that if I was a good girl I wouldn't tell Mommy where we were.
I didn't say anything. And as I grew up I learned that when som**hing seems shady, it's better to just shut your mouth and observe.
I played my part when I got home. I happily told my Mom what a great day we had had. Never mentioned Red Nosed Rita.
So this jack ass continued to take me over there.
I'd sit next to my TV tray, watching cartoons and eating my bologna sandwich while Daddy-O and Red slipped "into the den" so they could have "adult time."
They must have had a hell of an adult time. Daddy-O came out of the "den" all red faced with his shirt hanging out of his pants.
Red always wore a s**t ton of red lipstick, which was now smeared all over from her upper lip all the way around her mouth and chin.
I heard a lot of yelling when the three of us were home alone, but what else was new?
I stayed with my grandma while my parents worked, then my Mom would come get me.
But one day we didn't go right home. We went to Nibs for a cheeseburger with sauteed onions, friend fries and a Chocolate Malt that was so big we had to share.
From there we went to Nichol Park and on to Woolworths for a couple more toys and a big round colorful lollipop.
But when we got into the car, my Mom didn't start it.
She turned to face me with a deadly serious look on her face. I was a little freaked by this turn of events.
She brought her face close to mine and said, "Terry, where does Daddy take you when you go out....and don't you dare lie. God will punish you."
She gave me a look that I was sure could beam into my brain.
Covering for Daddy-O was one thing, but lying to my Mom with God listening was just to scary. I cracked like an egg.
That night I stayed at my grandparents. I guess they knew what was going to go on.
Three days later when my Mom took me home, there was no sign of Daddy-O. I didn't ask, she didn't volunteer.
So life just kind of went on, except that now when my Mom came to pick me up, I'd pitch a fit, throw myself on the floor and put a death grip on the door k**b if she tried to pull me out.
And I always got to stay. And most of the time Mommy would stay too.
After about three weeks of this, my grandpa said it was stupid to pay rent on an apartment that no one was staying in, so the following weekend my Grandpa and my Mom jumped into my Grandpa's truck, retrieved our belongings and we were official residents of 1645 Beau Rivage Ave. in San Pablo.
In our family children were kept on a need to know basis. And if there was som**hing really going on, we were sent to our room to play.
I tried to listen at the door, but my family was smart. They simply spoke in German. So I didn't know anymore when I walked out of the bedroom then I did when I came out.
But som**hing was happening. Grandma was laying in food like we were going to be feeding the troops.
Everything was cleaned till it practically shined. More sheets, pillows and blankets materialized, and there became a dire need to make more "closet space."
I pestered my Mom and Grandparents endlessly.
But they were some tough eggs to crack.
The only answer I could get out of any of them was, "Asking and asking isn't going to make it happen any sooner. You'll know when you know. Now go find som**hing to do."
And then finally the day came. It was better then anything that I could have imagined!
Please join me tomorrow night for "In The Ghetto" Part 2.

Hello everyone. After a two year sabbatical, I am return to this blog. Hope everyone enjoys my ramblings, bitching and t...
06/21/2023

Hello everyone. After a two year sabbatical, I am return to this blog. Hope everyone enjoys my ramblings, bitching and the insane of my life. Most of all, I hope the posts get to you.

I am really sick of San Francisco, I'm tired of being taken for granted, and I'm sick of walking under this black cloud ...
05/03/2022

I am really sick of San Francisco, I'm tired of being taken for granted, and I'm sick of walking under this black cloud of depression.
I'm tired of people telling me what to do, what not to do, what to buy, what not to buy, where to go, where not to go. It's like they don't realize I used to be a mom, a housewife, a wife and an artist. I used to be interested in everything. I read constantly, wrote way more then I do now.
Before I had my life blasted apart four years ago, I was a responsible person, jazzed up artistically and always ready to go out and hear some music. I was a person.
Now I'm just a shell. I never thought that someone like me would turn out to be a shell.

03/15/2022

I haven't been on for awhile.
The long distance romance with the mountain man is over. The more we talked I could see a lot of anger in him. Plus he was always telling me what I should do. Don't eat meat, don't smoke, don't eat so much sugar.......Ugggh!
Plus after three months of talking there was no interest in us getting together. He got snowed in up there and I invited him down to stay with me. He said he'd rather die then be in San Francisco. So freeze to death then.
Then one night we were talking and he said his dog had to p*e. So I said I'd talk to him later.
Then he said it was ok, the dog had laid back down.
Later when we got off the phone he sent me an angry text message saying the dog p*ed all over and it was my fault.
I was stunned!
I turned off my phone and tried to sleep.
When I woke up the next morning ai was livid!
I had had enough!
So I wrote him and said "well, you can bet I won't make that mistake again
"
I unfriended him and that's the end of that.
Life is to short!

I really think it's time for me to get counseling. I've let it go to long and it's not helping me. Damen dying has reall...
02/09/2022

I really think it's time for me to get counseling. I've let it go to long and it's not helping me. Damen dying has really affected me, but mostly because I can't believe he was doing m**h! Why are people so stupid? I didn't expect not hearing from the mountain man after our arguement would effect me this bad. But I have a lot of anger towards that too.

I bought a ticket to Dark Star Orchestra for the Warfield tomorrow night. I can't help but feel that this may go along w...
02/05/2022

I bought a ticket to Dark Star Orchestra for the Warfield tomorrow night. I can't help but feel that this may go along way to repairing my soul.
I got up today and actually got my rent check in prescription and laundry soapl.
Been invited to join my old coven when I go back to PA in May. I live those girls so much.
I may never come back.
Proud I did som**hing today.
Tomorrow I'll do more.
Miss New York unGodly.

I wish I wasn't depressed. I wish I could get up every morning and get dressed. Clean my house and go out and do things ...
02/04/2022

I wish I wasn't depressed. I wish I could get up every morning and get dressed. Clean my house and go out and do things like laundry and shopping.
I wish I wasn't depressed so I could go for walks or visit museums, or rummage around a thrift store.
I'd like to make it to appointments and call about getting my medical and Medicare cards replaced. To make important phone calls and pick up my meds on time.
I wish I wasn't depressed so I could take care of myself. Nice bathes, creamy lotion on my body, Mani pedis, put on som**hing besides jeans a band shirt and my docs.
I wish I wasn't depressed so I can get excited about som**hing, anything again.
I can't do this alone. I have to get to a therapist and untangle these last four years so I can reconnect to the part of me that I love.
But what if I make the appointment and I can't get out of bed?
What do I do then?

I've been trying to write, but my head is so full of experiences and memories I can't write fast enough to get an essay ...
02/03/2022

I've been trying to write, but my head is so full of experiences and memories I can't write fast enough to get an essay finished.
I want to howl. We used to howl during the full moon rituals when I was in my coven. I loved it. I felt cleansed and relaxed.
I think if I howled now I'd have every dog in SF howling with me.
I'm starting to feel like I want to do more creatively. Costumes or jewelry. Even bought a book on wire wrapping. YRB did it, how hard could it be?
Set up my own fire stick. Could my tablet and computer be far behind? Maybe my printer? Or a button making machine?
I think I am ready to get out of SF. Maybe Marin. Would like to hang out with some OG Deadheads.
I need to get to a place where I commit to taking care of myself. Laying in bed for days in the same dirty PJs is not taking care of yourself.
At least I'm feeling alittle better.

12:37 and I'm still wide awake.Didn't sleep at all last night.It isn't the worst thing, insomnia is.I catch up on my rea...
01/21/2022

12:37 and I'm still wide awake.
Didn't sleep at all last night.
It isn't the worst thing, insomnia is.
I catch up on my reading, which drowns out my ever churning thoughts, memories, regrets and everything else I've stuffed up there for 68 years.
Now that I have all the time in the world, I can't motivate myself to start writing.
I don't know if it's laziness or the intense emotions writing is going to bring up.
I do know that I have to get to a therapist like yesterday, because I can't go another four years locked up in my house alone, with no motivation to do anything.
I should have started going the minute he left. But I had to be strong. I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of breaking me down. What do you call this?
I really wish I wouldn't have even started in with someone else. All I did was let myself feel again. And it doesn't feel good.
It just shines a big light on what I already know.
I'm not going to get my happily ever after. My Prince is not coming. All the best parts of my life are over. I'm just an old woman who was once a force to be reckoned with. Fearless and up for everything.
There was always time for one more adventure, one more butterflies in my stomach crazy love affair, a whole life to look forward to.
Now it's just a quiet, lonely road of endless days and even more endless nights.
Trudging down the road in cement covered shoes, dragging along not making eye contact with anyone, no more sparkling lights and heady sounds.
Just me, alone........
I wish my life hadn't turned out this way........

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