09/07/2026
The little girl in this video wanted straight hair and lighter skin because she just wanted to belong…
For years I thought loving myself meant looking different softer, lighter, thinner, anything except for what I actually was. I rarely saw others who looked like me and I was still learning Spanish so I understood it but couldn’t speak it fluently. For a little introverted girl who moved around a lot and desperately wanted to fit in, the language barrier was another hurdle in an already difficult situation. I remember having trouble making friends because I wasn’t accepted by those who looked different than me or by those who did look like me because of the language barrier. It was isolating and heartbreaking to see others make friends so quickly. I was embarrassed, lacked stability, and felt like something was wrong with just being myself.
It took a very long time to realize the things I was trying so hard to change were never the problem. Now I get to show up exactly as I am, curls, tan skin, and all, and somehow that’s the version of me you all showed up for. Baking is where I first felt safe enough to be fully myself out loud, and this little corner of the internet only exists because I stopped hiding myself!
Thank you for making this feel like a safe space to be all of me, not just the facade I used to rely on. And if there’s something about yourself that you’re still learning to stop apologizing for or trying to change to fit in, I hope you feel just as safe here too exactly as you are. I’m building a life I love, one day at a time, new here? This is a story told one video at a time so follow to see where it goes.