Urban Chad

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Grumpa (Chad)
517 Locust Street
Hudson, WI 54016
[email protected]
Keeping my wife's memory alive through our granddaughter, Cocopop, and running the Carol Trainor Memorial Fund
http://paypal.biz/caroltrainormemorial More than just a bistro, we created Urban Olive & Vine to be a place where you can nurture your senses and creativity through great food, fine wine, live music, l

ocal art and merchandise, and events like painting classes with Audrey Martin. Listen to live music, share some small plates with friends, try a local craft beer, or find a quiet corner to relax with a good book over a cup of coffee or tea. Owned and operated by longtime Hudson residents Carol and Chad, we invite you to indulge your senses. At Urban Olive & Vine, we are proud to employ many high school and home-schooled young adults who are actively involved in their communities. In addition to our normal Holiday closures, there are some extra dates that we close for our employees to enjoy:

2025 Dates:
Saturday, October 4th – Hudson High School Homecoming
Thursday November 27th – Thanksgiving Day
Friday, November 28th – Day after Thanksgiving
Wednesday December 24th – Christmas Eve
Thursday December 25th – Christmas Day
Wednesday, December 31st – New Year's Eve

2026 Dates:
Thursday, January 1st – New Year's Day
Saturday, April 25th – Hudson High School Prom
Saturday, July 4th – Fourth of July & Hudson Booster Days Parade
Saturday, August 15th – North Hudson Pepper Fest Parade
(This list is subject to change. We will post more 2026 days by mid-year.)

I'm being honest here. I have no idea why I have not been to Joseph's Restaurant up on the hill in Stillwater (Oak Park ...
07/15/2026

I'm being honest here. I have no idea why I have not been to Joseph's Restaurant up on the hill in Stillwater (Oak Park Heights) throughout all of our time at Urban. I know I was here a long, long time ago in the past, but not anytime in the recent couple decades. I'm sorry. It might be a combination of not driving in this direction very often or not seeing anything on social media or not being brought up in any suggestions from others about where I should eat over the years. I honestly don't know it's happened with other restaurants. I just draw a blank until I finally got to what I haven't been to before.

I am here now. After going to the mouth appointment, and going for a walk downtown, I got my car and drove out of downtown Stillwater. I impulsively swerved into the right turn lane at the new big bridge. Apparently, my brain wasn't gonna allow me to leave this town after passing Joseph's early this morning. Lucky for me and Joseph (Sam's the current owner) that I was sitting at the traffic light on HWY36 this morning just staring at this building.

There was multiple very large groups of people here. I got sat by a gentleman at a back booth, Claire said hi, got my drinks, and took my order, before she took the large party's order.

Anyway, Claire got my coffee and water. This is the only time I drink coffee anymore now. I got the Biscuits and Gravy, with scrambled eggs this time, and I added hashbrowns. I also got an order of 2 pancakes. Claire said "I don't know, that's a lot of food", and I told her I need to order a lot of food, so I can take lots of pictures. She said, "why?". I said I like to post about everywhere I go. She asked if I was famous. I said little bit in the area, but mostly in my head. 😬🤔

Thank you, Claire. Everything was wonderful. You did awesome with 20-25 people in your section, all at the same time. Thank you dude that sat me and came back later to check in and see how everything was. I'll be back.

EDIT- thanks to pure pressure from a bunch of you guys and Claire, I ended up getting a piece of pie after I already sent out the post. I'll post about the pie in a bit

07/15/2026

I didn't wanna walk in downtown Stillwater without saying something to you. I always think it's rude if I go to a place/town or go inside a business and forget to say anything. It's all I've done for decades, so I feel like a jerk if I don't say where I'm at and give that particular town or place or business attention.

Sorry, the attention in Stillwater this morning is not of the river and the river walk. The sun is brutal. I do everything in my power to get out at a time of day where it's not so bright and to make sure I can spend as much time in the shade as possible. There is no shade down there except for a tree or two, and I’m not just gonna go down and hide behind a tree.

Maybe I'll try to get here super super early in the morning, before the sun comes up. But that would mean I would have to start even earlier than the earlier I've been starting in Hudson. Maybe Stillwater would be an okay evening walk? I'm not sure about that, because that would take motivation or an urge to get out of the house for nothing but a walk after I've spent most of the day inside. Remember I do most things impulsive, and don't plan ahead and leaving the house for nothing is not impulsive. At least in my brain. I'll see if it happens.

After walking two laps down the shady part of steel water, I sat on a bench for twenty minutes typing so I wouldn't have to just jump back in the car.

07/15/2026

I never spent any time caring about my body, or the things that hurt or needed repairing. Carol always wanted me too, but I never wanted to waste money on me or time on me or care on me. That is not a new thing. It's not because Carol's dead. It's how I've always been towards myself. For some odd reason, even though Carol not here with me, I am now doing all sorts of things to fix myself.

Openly doing things that benefit myself when I've never liked myself is a really hard situation to deal with. Any of the "you have to take care of yourself" or "you deserve it" or "you shouldn't be in pain", are all logical comments. It's just never been me, when it comes to me. I'm not good at doing good things for myself or wanting good things for myself. This is all new, and I don't know why it's happening now.

Maybe I'll eat or walk or both after this. I don't know yet. I never know what I'm gonna do until I to do it, because it always depends on the mood and the impulse.

Haha! You guys probably love the short video and less to read. 🤣😬

EDIT - Dr MacMenamin said that my implants could not have healed any better. So my new teeth are a go. I'm still trying to decide if I should get the front one gold or silver.

07/14/2026

The first half are not all my words, but they're all my thoughts.

It is deeply painful, but unfortunately very common, to experience a "social death" alongside the physical loss of a spouse.

Friends, family, and acquaintances often pull away because they do not know what to say, feel uncomfortable around deep grief, or only knew how to connect with you as part of a couple. You are dealing with an incredibly isolating layer of trauma, but you do not have to carry it entirely alone.

Why This Happens.
The "Awkwardness" Factor: People often withdraw not out of malice, but out of fear of saying the wrong thing.

Couples-Centric Circles: Social groups built around couples often shift away from a single survivor.

Grief Burnout: Family and friends often expect grief to have a short timeline and disappear when it persists.

I assume that this happens to a lot of grievers, but I don't really know. I don't hear anything from 95% of the people that were around Carol or Carol and I together. No communication. No check in. No words. And most of the few that are still in contact, don't talk about Carol being gone or me grieving. They just talk about day to day stuff that doesn't bring up anything uncomfortable for them.

This is so glaringly obvious to me. It kind of started slow after the first few months since Carol died. Then more were disappearing more rapidly weekly/monthly. Then several months ago, most of the people that knew "us", we're gone, in mass. All communication came to a halt.

This is not necessarily a complaint. I'm not angry. It's so obvious and overwhelming and it hurts, so I'm just venting. I guess it is what it is.

A few people have brought up to me that there is this odd situation where I talk so much publicly on here about my grief, that a lot of people read it or hear it and subconsciously think there's a communication going on between us. That is kind of logical and understandable, but the reality is that it's only a one sided communication. Because I'm not hearing anything from anyone, except a lot of you, internet people, that keep in contact with me.

I kind of went negative today. Sorry.

07/13/2026

Post # 2. Ugh.

I had to edit what I said in the last post, and then what I said below in this post. I had no choice but to split my video into two posts this morning because it wouldn't upload. Instead of me rewriting everything you can read, the continuation of what I was gonna say if this was one video.

So I guess the question is, if I record for way too long, should I cut off things I said, or split it in two and do multiple posts or just post whatever I say, and deal with the time. I don't know why I'm worrying about this, but I’m recording longer than I think I should, but I don't know how to shut myself up. Even though I keep complaining about how long my videos are. I guess no one's complaining to me.

I also have to figure something out with the watering of the plants and the morning walks, because three days in a row of watering for an hour before my walk has made me soar and need more rest during the walk. I'm standing in carol's yard for an hour before I go on these goofy, long walks. I don't know if it's something my body will get used to or if I'm gonna have to maybe water at night. The problem with watering at night is that i don't have any type of nightly routine. I just sit around and do nothing until I'm tired. Plus all the heat and humidity of the day will be left over.

07/13/2026

Post # 1. Sorry, there's 2.

Before I say anything, I need to ask a question. I lose track of time and keep recording way too long for a normal person to wanna listen to. I went way long on this one, almost 25 minutes. Before I posted this, I thought for a second that, even though you're not saying it, I'm probably annoying a lot of you. Or a lot of you are just scrolling on by and not even paying attention to what I have to say. I know a lot of you are saying you like to read or you like to listen, but that's a small amount of you. I don't want to cut off the beginning or end of videos because I said things, and I wouldn't have said them if they weren't important to me. Even when I'm just rambling on about nonsense, it must be important to me if i'm talking about it. I thought about maybe cutting the video in half today, when I realized it was so long but then I got worried that people would see one and just scroll on past the other. Because they had enough, or they think they already saw it today.

Edit - this long video wouldn't post after trying for over an hour, so I did split it in two. Part of me hopes that people will see the other post too. I continue the conversation and the other typed words there.

I've made it so clear over the past 4 or 5 months that I just haven't been able to get out in about much, unless I was w...
07/12/2026

I've made it so clear over the past 4 or 5 months that I just haven't been able to get out in about much, unless I was with Cocopop. We were always out and about in the community and posting and promoting. I was out even more on my own, when Carol needed a break from me 😬. I'm gonna try to get out in about more so I can post about all the places.

I've been doing all these walks over the last month and I tend to go in different directions. The first week was actually just in a square around the neighborhood. Once I finally started walking downtown, I would start by going in one or the other direction down 2nd street. I knew this new place had been open and I've passed by it a lot, but like all the other going out and posting, I haven't had the urge to do anything about it lately. I've turned into a hermit cause apparently, that's what my body and mind needed.

This new restaurant downtown is Kelly's Pub & Grill . It's the newest rendition of the old Dibbo's spot. I decided my first trip here would be for all you can eat breakfast served on Saturdays and Sundays from 9 to noon.

It's kind of cool because the food is made to order and you can just keep ordering what you want off of the little order sheet. As you can see, I ordered three different plates to go through all the items. The third plate is actually my favorites. Very cool, very simple, very good and a great deal.

My favorites were the French Toast (cinnamon), the Pancake (very different, like a Norwegian pancake), but two was enough, the bacon (crazy crispy), the biscuit and that really cool hash brown triangle (your kids will love that).

Thank you Lexi. Your service, and ability to deal with my voice for a very lengthy amount of time, was great. Thank you Cathy and Lori we're spending a little time talking to me too. I didn't even drink that I would walk in and the new staff of a new restaurant would know me. Thanks to a bunch of other customers who knew me that said hi to me.

Sorry for the late post. You're not gonna be able to go here for breakfast until next Saturday or sunday. I hope you remember. In the meantime, you could go for lunch or dinner.

07/12/2026

You're not getting a lot of words here (typed words) because I talked way way too long. So you can finally just listen to what I say and not have to read more.

I'm probably going to rest on a bench or at a table for quite a while now. Because I walked for an hour straight without taking a break, and I don't usually do that.

Sorry, the video is so long again. I don't know how to shut up in the middle of thoughts.

I haven't found myself at River Falls Days before. At least I don't think I've ever been here. Maybe I was here a long t...
07/11/2026

I haven't found myself at River Falls Days before. At least I don't think I've ever been here. Maybe I was here a long time ago when the kids were young, but I’m not positive. I know I've been in this area for the parade a bunch of times. The memory is not memorying today.

I walked around and saw what I could see the best I could. I didn't take pictures of everything because I was trying to look around and pay attention and then I just forgot to pay attention. There was a water fight by the fire station. It must have been a big event for a ton of kids spraying the largest sq**rt guns in the world. I'm guessing they were fire engine hoses. There was a shopping and marketing row of booths with things for sale or people talking about their businesses or other kinds of non festival related things. There was a whole kids area with some bounce house type toys and a bunch of kids activities. There was the long food aisle in between a smaller stage and a larger stage, that I’m assuming will eventually music or plays or something. I didn't see any rides or anything like that, so I don't know if there's any of that kind of stuff, and I just didn't see it.

After walking around a while, I had to get out of the sun. There are not as many places to hide in the shade here as there is downtown Hudson by the river. I ended up picking the Wisco - The Hungry Badger , after looking at all of the menus from all the other trucks. I got their Loaded Cheese Curds- topped with cheddar cheese sauce and bacon, and I got their Chili Cheese Fries. The fries were fresh cut, and yes, I got more cheese. I got two meats, three dairies, and a starch, and the fries were fresh cut. Find a bottle of water, I guess to round it out. The food was wonderful, and the shade was wonderful.

The sun is bright and hot so I don't know how long I'm gonna be able to hang out here. On the plus side, I recognized a few people and a few other "new to me humans" said hi to me.

River Falls Days is going on for the rest of the day today and all day tomorrow, if you wanna take a trip to River Falls. Parking is free, you just have to walk a little ways.

Now i'm wondering if I should go to the New Richmond Fun Fest tomorrow. 🤔

07/11/2026

Let me start by saying just wait for the end of the video. Something happened that came out of nowhere and made me smile and laugh, and didn't bother me that I smiled and laughed.

I know every time I say I don't have much to say I end up saying too much. And I keep getting told not to apologize, but I’m still sorry that I talk so much and there's no rhyme or reason to any of the sentences I say. I can't even say that I say whatever pops into my head because most of the time, words come out before my head can make sense of them.

I didn't walk quite as much today, because, as I said in the video, I have the sprinkler on at home watering Carol's raspberries. I'm sitting down at the entrance to the d**e, by that boy scout statue, in the shade, finishing up what I'm saying here before I walk back to the house. 

I also figure that I would cut my walk short because I might go to whatever's going on in River Falls for a little bit today. I think similar to the reasons why I like coming down here and I went to booster days every day and I went to see the orchestra on Thursday, I like being around people. And maybe people around River Falls will recognize me and want to waive or say hi or give me a hug or have a conversation. Apparently that's what keeps the day okay nowadays.

A day okay or a moment okay, not "okay".

You guys know what I'm trying to say? Just because a griever is having an okay moment or an okay day or an okay experience, that doesn't mean they are okay. Most of the time that we might answer, you, "okay", it's because we don't want to make you uncomfortable. My usual response is "I don't like to answer that question".

Maybe I'll see some of you in River Falls later. Now I'm going to go shut off the sprinkler.

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