Urban Chad

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Grumpa (Chad)
517 Locust Street
Hudson, WI 54016
[email protected]
Keeping my wife's memory alive through our granddaughter, Cocopop, and running the Carol Trainor Memorial Fund
http://paypal.biz/caroltrainormemorial More than just a bistro, we created Urban Olive & Vine to be a place where you can nurture your senses and creativity through great food, fine wine, live music, l

ocal art and merchandise, and events like painting classes with Audrey Martin. Listen to live music, share some small plates with friends, try a local craft beer, or find a quiet corner to relax with a good book over a cup of coffee or tea. Owned and operated by longtime Hudson residents Carol and Chad, we invite you to indulge your senses. At Urban Olive & Vine, we are proud to employ many high school and home-schooled young adults who are actively involved in their communities. In addition to our normal Holiday closures, there are some extra dates that we close for our employees to enjoy:

2025 Dates:
Saturday, October 4th – Hudson High School Homecoming
Thursday November 27th – Thanksgiving Day
Friday, November 28th – Day after Thanksgiving
Wednesday December 24th – Christmas Eve
Thursday December 25th – Christmas Day
Wednesday, December 31st – New Year's Eve

2026 Dates:
Thursday, January 1st – New Year's Day
Saturday, April 25th – Hudson High School Prom
Saturday, July 4th – Fourth of July & Hudson Booster Days Parade
Saturday, August 15th – North Hudson Pepper Fest Parade
(This list is subject to change. We will post more 2026 days by mid-year.)

I love you Honey ❤️I miss you 😪💔😪💔
05/29/2026

I love you Honey ❤️
I miss you 😪💔😪💔

I don't get out much or say much to you guys anymore. I don't have any motivation or interest in getting out lately, and...
05/27/2026

I don't get out much or say much to you guys anymore. I don't have any motivation or interest in getting out lately, and I have no idea what the talk about. Maybe that'll change at some point. But for some reason, this is the change that's happened the last month or so. And especially the last few weeks since the one year anniversary of Carol's death. I just don't know what to talk about anymore. it doesn't help that I've lost contact with about 95% of the people that knew Carol. Hardly any contact at all. Just a few check ins once in a while.

I'm not doing well mentally or emotionally. I think I feel worse than I did last year because I couldn't even register what was happening last year. The only thing I could do was constantly cry and accept hugs. The majority of the crying has stopped and there's no more hugs since i'm not around people anymore. Now, it's all registering and hitting me hard. On the outside, I seem to you like I'm okay. If you talked to me, I would talk okay. On the inside, I'm not not even close to okay. I have just shut down and now I just sit in the house. The house that I couldn't even stay in, accept to sleep, for for ten months, is the place I just sit all day every day.

I think I would get out and do things and see people if they wanted. But I don't have any interest or motivation in initiating that. The social butterfly has turned into a hermit.

Anyway, I just thought I would update you and let you know that I went to the clinic today to talk to the shoulder expert and we've scheduled an MRI for both of my damaged shoulders so we can figure out which type of surgery I'm gonna need. He's also gonna start having me do some things to help me relieve the damaged elbow. Maybe at some point, these three spots won't hurt as much.

Thanks Dr David P Law at M Health Fairview

Thank you so much to Matt of Marko Septic LLC in Roberts, Wisconsin. Matt came out to my mother-in-law, Louise's, house ...
05/18/2026

Thank you so much to Matt of Marko Septic LLC in Roberts, Wisconsin. Matt came out to my mother-in-law, Louise's, house tonight (way after hours) to fix her severely clogged kitchen sink. It has been clogged for the last two days and nothing we did could fix it.

I first called Red Barn Plumbing , since Nick and Kari been to Carol's house and Carol’s mom's house before. We love them. They couldn't come here because they've been downtown at Urban Table (small world), doing plumbing work for them all day today. So they refered us to Matt at Marko.

Another small world incident. I referred Red Barn Plumbing to Hudco To-Go when they needed some work done a couple months ago. Red Barn did not specialize in what they needed, so they referred to Marco.

Another funny thing that happened is that on this day that this is going on. I just happened to be wearing my Brazen Beef shirt. in Red Barn are the same owners. Ha!

Thanks Matt.
I hope you got all my time for dinner.

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05/18/2026

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Grandma, Brianna, Morgan, and I drove to Anoka this afternoon to see Mike's String Quartet, Catena String Quartet , perf...
05/17/2026

Grandma, Brianna, Morgan, and I drove to Anoka this afternoon to see Mike's String Quartet, Catena String Quartet , perform a concert. Mike us the one on the left. Afterwards we stopped at BC's Mongolian Buffet in Stillwater for dinner.

I'm not that interested in getting out of the house much anymore. I was able to get talked into getting out the last few days while Brianna has been visiting. I went to my mother in law's house three days in a row, followed by this concert and dinner.

Still having a hard time figuring out what to say. No motivation to get out or talk much. Have no idea want to talk abou...
05/17/2026

Still having a hard time figuring out what to say. No motivation to get out or talk much. Have no idea want to talk about our post lately. Everything kind of hit me hard leading up to and around May 5th. It feels like the trauma has all started over again, but I feel worse, making it hard to just get out and function.

Add to this that there are people attacking me. Saying I should be over my grief, I should move on, I should realize what I'm doing to others. Saying I don't care about others or i'm causing others problems because I can't get it together. They shouldn't have to suffer because of me.

Like I am trying to intentionally hurt others or make others uncomfortable. What? You think I wake up in the morning and decide who i'm going to affect today just by lying in bed or not going out or not talking to people. You think i'm worried about other people's feelings, while i'm trying to figure out how my grief is gonna hit me each day. I'm hurt. I'm uncomfortable.

I function enough to pay attention to my family, and that's a struggle. You can ask them. I am not obligated to worry about people that are mad at me and grief bully me because I don't conform to their grief or grief timeline standards.

Whatever is happening to me is happening to me. I have no control over it. I don't know why it's gotten worse over time or hit me harder recently or lasted longer than society says it should. You think I wanted this? Wanted my wife to die unexpectedly of something don't know of. You think I wanted to feel this way and be going through this, as the "new me".

"Traumatic grief is a severe, often debilitating, response to a sudden or unexpected death, blending intense bereavement with symptoms of PTSD. Unlike typical grief, it is characterized by distressing, intrusive thoughts of the death's circumstances, hindering the ability to mourn or move forward."

This is what you're mad at me for? I'm sorry I'm not conforming to your calendar or I'm making you uncomfortable or I'm inconveniencing you. I'm sorry I'm, making you angry? And somehow I feel bad for you that life is so bad that you have to attack me. I am so glad you are not going through this in your life.

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I started this post saying I don't know what to talk about, and then I just blab on. It really sucks that I don't post for a week and a half, for the first time in the history of my posting life, and this is what I talk about. Mind you, these aren't strangers on the internet. These are people that know me. A lot of the time I talk to you guys about this particular subject matter, it's because it came from people that know me, not strangers. Most of the time in private messages are texts. Obviously so no one else sees.

I'm sorry that my first post after so many days off was negative. I love Carol and I miss her so much. I'm having such a hard time and this is what I have to post about. You know what sucks? She would be the one I would be whining to to get comfort.

Brianna came into town this afternoon to visit. She and I and the boys (Morgan and Mike) got me out of the house to tak...
05/15/2026

Brianna came into town this afternoon to visit. She and I and the boys (Morgan and Mike) got me out of the house to take some pizza over to grandma's house and hang out with Carol's mom, Louise. I should really go over here more often to visit my mother-in-law.

The pizzas are from downtown at Carbone's Pizzeria, Hudson WI. We went through the whole menu and decided on three different pizzas. The Meaty Pizza with pepperoni, sausage, canadian bacon, and bacon, the Hawaiian Pizza with canadian bacon and pineapple, and the Sizzlin Hot Chick Pizza with ranch, buffalo sauce, chicken, bacon, mozzarella, and cheddar.

Thanks Eric

Sorry, I have it posted in a while. I just haven't known what to say. I haven't been out very much until today.Anyway, t...
05/14/2026

Sorry, I have it posted in a while. I just haven't known what to say. I haven't been out very much until today.

Anyway, the post isn't about me.

If Trina Stuart follows me, or if someone that knows her follows me, I found your small handheld zipper billfold in the Aldi parking lot. I gave it to Jala. She was gonna put it in the office, so you could go there and get it. I hope you either see this, or at least backtrack to Aldi when you realize it's missing.

A year ago this morning was the first time I woke up without you alive. I can't recall the pain then, but somehow, right...
05/06/2026

A year ago this morning was the first time I woke up without you alive. I can't recall the pain then, but somehow, right now, I feel worse than I did yesterday morning. ????

Obviously I recall pain. It's just that the difference between the morning you died and the next morning is a blur now. Numb cold hard heavy metallic pain is how my stomach, chest, and head feel right now. I can even feel it in my teeth. ????

Yesterday was hard. I was alone. Only a few people checked up on me, privately. I guess that's what it means when everybody's life goes on while your grieving your loss. Today is already starting out hard. I'm not leaving the house, so it'll be another alone day. That's okay. I'll hang out with you. ❤️

I love you, honey. I miss you.😪💔😪💔

May 5th 2025. 1 year ago today, you, the love of my life, died. You're gone. It doesn't feel like a year. It feels like ...
05/05/2026

May 5th 2025. 1 year ago today, you, the love of my life, died. You're gone. It doesn't feel like a year. It feels like yesterday and 10 years ago at the same time. I love you. I miss you. I am living without you, but i'm not living without you. I'm just going through the motions. Not really involved. Just doing what I'm supposed to do to get by. 

Brianna helps keep track of my personal finances. Mike, helps keep track of Urban finances. I follow through with doctors and health issues, I eat, and I do a thing once in a while. That's it. Nothing above and beyond. Nothing extra. Nothing new. Just the bare minimum, because it's all I can physically or mentally handle. Everyone is so lucky that they don't need to depend on me to get through their lives. 

Everyone knows how I feel about December 20th 2024, the day I lost you. I know now that my agony started five and a half months before you died. But a year ago today, everyone else lost you. I know everyone loves you and misses you. Your family, your friends, your community, and everyone you knew. Some close to you are still grieving and other, not so close have moved on. I can't think about them or speak for them because I miss you. I miss you the most.

Whatever I felt about you being sick was worse when I found out you were already gone. Even worse when I had to let you go and start hospice. Even worse living this past year without you. Now it's 10 times worse because I am feeling all of it, all over again. The trauma of you being sick and suffering and being tortured in the ICU and dying and living without you and the feelings of it starting all over again hurt more than I could ever explain to anyone.

I will not be silent about you or my grief. I will not stop talking or whining about it. I will not move on. I will not get over it. I will not act happy. I will not get help to be fixed. You are gone and I'm stuck here without you. I don't know what happened, what made you sick, what put you in the ICU, what destroyed your brain. All I know is that i told them to let you die. I have to live with that. I'm not going to hide it.

I don't want to be here. I wanna be with you.
I love you, honey. I miss you. 😪💔

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