24/07/2022
Husbands, what does God tell us to do? God tells us to love our wife. This is not a suggestion, but a command from God. But you may object by saying, “I cannot always be in love with my wife!” If you raise that objection, you are correct that you cannot be in love with your wife at all times. The reason is that emotions are difficult to control because they are heavily influenced by what is happening at a given moment. This is why the Bible does not tell you to be “in love” with your wife at all times, but “to love” your wife at all times. Being “in love” is emotional and not always something you have control over. Being “in love” is a passive experience in which you are drawn into. In this verse, love is not passive, but as active. The commanded “to love” is a verb. When God tells husbands to love their wives, He is speaking of the action of being committed to your wife. Your love is not based on what is happening but persists regardless of what is happening. In fact, your love is demonstrated in the fact that it is not tied to present circumstances but in a prior commitment.
