18/10/2026
If you want to have a better relationship with yourself, indulge me for 30 seconds,
Reading Steven Bartlett's The Diary of a CEO. One idea stopped me.
Ask, don't tell.
A statement asks nothing of you. A question demands an answer. And an answer is a promise.
Psychology calls it cognitive dissonance. When what you say and what you do don't match, your brain can't stand the gap. So it closes it one of two ways: you change your behaviour, or you change your story.
Most people change the story.
"I'll start Monday."
"This week was different."
"I deserve it."
Here's the part too many DONT TELL YOU,
Every promise you break to yourself is a lesson. You're teaching yourself that your word means nothing. Do it enough times and you stop believing your own plans. Not because you're lazy, but because you've trained yourself not to trust you.
Self-belief isn't a feeling you wait for. It's evidence you collect.
Not affirmations on the mirror. Not quotes on your feed. Not your mate telling you you've got this.
Receipts. Small promises, kept, again and again, until your identity has no choice but to catch up.
You don't rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of the promises you keep.
So answer this honestly. Yes or no?
Do my actions today line up with the person I said I want to become?
If it stings, good. That's not failure talking. That's the gap, asking to be closed.
Once again I cannot thank you all for being here, I wrote this reflection 450 meters over looking Tokyo. After completing hours of check ins ans emails... some may say "oh even on holiday hes still working "
Or i can say how blessed am I, I have clients who rely on me, i get to travel the world and still make an impact..
Theres is blessing in every moment if you stop to find it.
