28/09/2026
Blog time!
School Holidays are here and while the kids are having brekky, having quiet time or you are waiting for the motivation to kick-in to prep your dinner, read my next blog entry to pass the time.
(These blogs are taken straight from my Substack, which is like a place for people to express their inner feelings... Jokes! Or a place for anyone who just like to have a yarn other than from their own mouth. These 'exclusive' blogs are the closest thing you will get in knowing who I am... if you were ever interested/invested.š„°)
Blog #9
Being My Own Architect: Building a Pasifika business on my terms.
Starting out scared, but learning to be smart about it.
I have to admit, the business gurus on Tik-Tok know exactly how to catch you - hook, line, and sinker. Designed to reel you in and entice you to buy, learn or just watch the message they want to relay. They definitely know how to market and really play to that vulnerable side of you... the one that says, I really should put my phone away and engage in something other than doom scrolling for a couple of hours... It got me thinking about how much has changed in the last 10 years compared to just the last 5 years. Technology and evolution and the way businesses use this to their advantage plays on my mind. I think Iām still playing catch up and that may be the millennial in me; not liking change or resisting it and letting things happen naturally. When I look at my own journey, ānaturalā is a word I could use to describe how my business has grown.
Celebrating another business milestone.
I have been running this business for exactly 4 years now. In fact, I am officially celebrating my 4th business anniversary this month! And let me tell you, I did it practically broke and scared! Well, scared of the unknown, but not afraid of the work - because if there is one thing I know how to do, itās rise to a challenge. I was never meant to last this long. I was only meant to sell triple chocolate brownies and paifala to friends and family. Yet, here I am, 4 years later, a bonafide Pacific Island baker and caterer!
It was a big step for me and it was scary. Who is going to buy this from me!? I didnāt even know anyone? For the first year, they tell you it would be slow. So I took that literally and sub-consciously made sure I grew slowly so that I didnāt become that stereotype, because I am kind of that stereotype⦠in a roundabout way.
So yes, I did it scared but I also had a plan. Or at least I thought I had a plan. If you asked me a decade ago that this is what I was going to be doing, then Iād be very surprised. That decade ago I was looking after four kids under 10 years of age and managing family life. Even if I didnāt consciously realise it back then, I believe it was part of a bigger plan.
Dream big, start small, or something like that.
I read somewhere (possibly a 3-minute Tik-Tok video), that manifestation is real and if you send āitā out to the universe it will come true or something will happen. I believe it! Subconsciously, I moved towards building my own business because I remember a long time ago, I said out loud that I was going to be my own boss. Was anyone listening? Maybe it was my future self! I also said that I would have babies and get married before I turned 30. All of which have come true! I also remember saying to myself at this time, that I would have my own house by the time I was 30. Now, I look at my friends who own their homes with a little bit of envy, and a massive amount of respect as I know how bloody hard they worked to get a house. But looking back at my own timeline, clearly my path was different. I truly believe itās because I wanted to buy a house with no strings, possibly built from scratch and had all the things I dreamed of having but never had the means for. Therefore, if Iām going by my own belief, I think it will happen one day! Ultimately, I knew I would build a life on my own terms. Doing it scared got me started, but doing it smart and growing slowly is what actually is keeping me going. That, and the support from my husband and family.
Thatās the dream isnāt it?! Unless you already have your dream home and love it, good on you! I also know that with a house, comes more responsibility. I guess by the time I turned 30, my maturity level or rather should I say my priorities, just werenāt set on buying a house. I had just given birth to our twins, who arrived 11 weeks early and we didnāt know what the future looked like except surviving those long and late nights sitting in NICU tending to our boys.
What I do know, is that life has a funny way of telling you that this is how itās meant to be. I was meant to walk the path unknown and learn from it. I created that path. Traveling along it has given me so much to be thankful for including the many, many lessons in failure, success, achievements, self-doubt and mostly how to survive in this everchanging life I was given.
Reading is one of my favourite hobbies!
I do a lot of reading... Ok, thatās a lie. I 'used' to read a lot. Some books I donāt even remember and some I think were memorable? And I can read anything that has a purpose. Obviously, a book should have a purpose but I enjoy books that contain a message that I havenāt heard of, like a hidden meaning, so that I can mull over it for days on end⦠Do you do that too? My favourite topics lean away from the self-help type and more toward the informative. I loathe anything that says the word āDummyā or āDummies guide toā or ā10 top tips for blah, blah, blahā because letās be honest, most of these books could easily be narrowed down to a 10-page booklet! Instead, they use a gimmick. They play on the vulnerability of people who just want to get ahead in life by essentially calling them ādumbā right on the cover. Itās a bold marketing play, and while I know itās just a play on words, itās not exactly nice, is it? I would never do that.
Though, I will probably kick myself or have to eat my words one day because I most probably will publish a self-help PDF or something like instructions on how to achieve an almost perfect buttermilk scone...
I guess you just have to be in a mood to pick up a book and read. Oh, and have time, which I have very little of these days. I would read management books and articles about small business ownership, but Iāve noticed that there isnāt much out there that covers Pacific Island business or being a Pasifika entrepreneur and even less about women working in this industry. It is really hard to follow a traditional business blueprint when none of the architects look like you, or understand the cultural weight you carry (If you have found any, please let me know!).
Moral of the story isā¦
What I am trying to say here is: operating a business in this world today is hard and scary. Hate to break it to you. Itās difficult, especially when you ooze passion for something but canāt quite grasp the idea of longevity and perseverance - things that are crucial to survive and grow a business āfrom the ground upā. And like the Tik-Tokers and life coaches recommend, sometimes you just have to do it anyway. It leads to my all-time favourite motto, the one thing that I think is my secret (but not-so-secret) 'hack' to life and business: If at first you donāt succeed, try again. Cue the late R&B artist Aaliyahās famous track.
Now, a quick Google search found that a British author and educator actually coined the phrase back in the 1800s, but letās be real. Again. Aaliyah is the one who made it a survival anthem for our generation, may she rest in peace.
So, itās not a new thing. Tik-Tok and these new fads and trending themes have been here for centuries and will continue to evolve, much like many businesses and people. We evolve and adapt to change. We take on life as we experience it. I take life and all the things that I have experienced as something I am lucky to have. Whether I designed the way I that live and go about my life purposefully or not, I think destiny also has a part to play. But ultimately, my fate is in my hands. I am my own architect and I own my story. How many people can say that or have that same belief?