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05/10/2026

We start tomorrow!

Me on My Good Days begins tomorrow evening in The Hague, and I still have a couple of places available.

Over 10 weeks, we will explore what helps us feel more like ourselves on our good days — more present, connected, grounded and able to meet life without constantly pushing through.

We will work with the nervous system and the window of tolerance, combining understandable neuroscience with reflection, embodied exercises and practical ways of recognising and shifting our own patterns of activation and shutdown.

If you have been thinking about joining but haven't quite made the step, there is still time.

15/09/2026

ME ON MY GOOD DAYS 🌿
10-week experiential programme
Understanding your nervous system · recognising your patterns · accessing your capacity
The Hague · October 2026

Have you ever noticed how different you can feel when you are having a good day?
You think more clearly.
You have more patience.
You are more open, connected and flexible.
Things that normally overwhelm you feel more manageable.
You respond rather than react.
And then there are the other days.
The days when everything feels urgent. When you become anxious or irritable, overthink or try to control everything. When you become snappy, critical or easily frustrated.
Or the days when you withdraw, disconnect, lose motivation or feel like you have very little access to yourself.
What if these aren't different versions of you — but different states of your nervous system?
And what if the person you are on your good days isn't a different version of you — but you with greater access to your capacity?
This is the idea behind Me on My Good Days, a new 10-week small-group programme I am creating at Grow Wings in The Hague.
Together, we will explore:
🌿 the different states of our nervous system and our window of tolerance
🌿 hyperarousal and hypoarousal in our bodies and everyday lives
🌿 how our nervous system influences thoughts, emotions, behaviour and relationships
🌿 our learned patterns and inner “protectors”
🌿 regulation within ourselves and in relationship with others
🌿 creating more space between reacting and responding
🌿 and, most importantly, what our own nervous system needs
The programme combines accessible neuroscience and psychology with embodied practices, reflection and dyadic exercises.
Each week includes approximately 45 minutes of theory and 45 minutes of experiential practice.
📅 Starting Tuesday 6 October 2026 – 19:00-20:30
⏱️ 10 weekly 90-minute sessions (skipping 20 October)
📍 Grow Wings, The Hague
👥 Maximum 10 participants
🔒 Closed group — commitment to all 10 sessions required
This is the founding group, with a special introductory price.
If this speaks to you — or you know someone who might be interested — you can find more information and express your interest here:
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And if Tuesday evenings don't work for you, there will be an opportunity to register your interest for a future group at another time.

27/09/2019

EMDR conference in Milano with dear colleagues, our trainer Vesna and Isabel Fernandez - President of EMDR Europe. What a treat to learn from the best!

18/09/2019

Kad ovo dobijes od klijenta... LOL!!!!

Zabranjeno pušenje su: Sejo Sexon – vokal, back vokali Toni Lović – električne i akustične gitare Branko Trajkov Trak – bubnjevi, udaraljke, back vokali Robe...

21/06/2019

If more of the same is no longer an option: Grow!
Let’s work together
and make your dream life a reality.

In my practice I will not sit silently and nod as you tell your story.
I will challenge you.
I will provoke you.
I will urge you to take responsibility for your life.
I will make you wonder, and I will make you laugh.
I will be your guide while visiting those deep and dark places of pain.
I will not solve your problems for you, but I will help you uncover the potential to solve them yourself.

Grow Wings is a practice based in The Hague that offers psychological counseling and therapy in English, Croatian or French. When more of the same is no longer an option Grow Peace, Confidence, Love, Potential.

14/06/2019

“procrastination” is derived from the Latin verb procrastinare — to put off until tomorrow. But it’s more than just voluntarily delaying. Procrastination is also derived from the ancient Greek word akrasia — doing something against our better judgment.
That self-awareness is a key part of why procrastinating makes us feel so rotten. When we procrastinate, we’re not only aware that we’re avoiding the task in question, but also that doing so is probably a bad idea. And yet, we do it anyway.

If procrastination isn’t about laziness, then what is it about?

12/06/2019

One of my role models Bessel van der Kolk speaks about problems me and many of my colleagues face: "As long as we live with a diagnostic system without scientific validity, all of us are part of the problem. Too often, we label our patients with the diagnoses that are in line with what the insurance companies will reimburse us for, rather than what’s actually going on. In fact, many clinicians confide to me that they don’t bother making diagnoses at all. But how can you treat anybody and ask to be paid for your services if you don’t have a clear idea of what’s wrong and what you need to do to fix it? How would you feel if you went to a cardiologist who gave you the treatment that the insurance company will pay for without really bothering to find out what’s wrong with you? How can we respect ourselves, and be respected by our non-mental health colleagues, if we continue to rely on the opinions of insurance companies and ignore the basics of good diagnosis and a solid scientific approach to clinical care?"

Pioneering trauma specialist Bessel van der Kolk took aim not only at the politics within the therapy field that determine what diagnoses get into the DSM, but the politics in the larger arena that lead people to ignore the prevalence of trauma in society.

12/06/2019

You worked hard to achieve everything you were told would lead to a fulfilled and happy life. Your outward image is immaculate: perfect body, spouse, kids and a perfect career.
And yet, you are unable to enjoy any of it.
You feel like a shiny apple with a worm inside. Your outward image is immaculate, yet the inner critic is always there to remind you that you are not up to the task and could have done better. It never stops.
If more of the same is no longer an option: Grow peace!

Experience relief from anxiety. Overcome procrastination. Feel more relaxed, balanced and peaceful. Slow down and reconnect with yourself. Stop feeling frustrated and overwhelmed. Become more accepting and compassionate towards yourself. If more of the same is no longer an option: Grow Peace

11/06/2019

Thank you Peter Iocps for sharing article on this important topic. I am sharing on. It is OK not to be OK. It is OK to talk about it.

May is Mental Health Awareness month. Here's why it's vital to men everywhere.

11/06/2019

The sun is back and it is time to bloom. Are you ready to get out from a dark place and let your true colors shine from within?