18/07/2026
I’ve shared a lot about what changed.
Many of you have asked me what I actually did differently. So perhaps it’s time I share the things that genuinely helped me.
It took me more than two & half years of experimenting and staying disciplined. I was willing to do the work, because I was in was lonely, confusing and depressing place. And I knew I didn’t want to stay there . So I started changing the things that were within my control:
I quit alcohol. It’s now been over 2½ years
I found a menopause doctor who listened to me, she started me on Hormone therapy (oestrogen and progesterone), which has been a game changer for me personally. That changed everything.
I started reading. One book that completely changed my understanding was The Menopause Brain by . I genuinely think every woman should read it. Now I am reading The Peri Menopause Revolution by
I changed the way I eat, because I wanted to feel better mentally. I cut out sugar. Started prioritising protein, healthy fats, & vegetables. I still eat fruit—mostly citrus & and berries.
I started taking strength training seriously. 3 sessions a week-progressive overload. I shifted my mindset on fitness- investing & compounding in the strong woman I hope to become at 70.
I walk more & take the stairs to my condo. I do Barre 2 x week, which has been incredible for my mobility, balance, flexibility and core strength.
More recently, I started training for long-distance running. This one has surprised me because it’s teaching me something I’ve struggled with my whole life ( I get too competitive). Now I want to enjoy the process, be patient- to trust adaptation instead of chasing for immediate results.
I’m also learning to recover & stop seeing recovery as laziness, instead, recognise it as an ESSENTIAL part of training. Sleep has become non-negotiable- aiming eight hours every night.
I got rid of all the personal care products in the house as I developed skin allergies- my skin used to flare up ( one of the many peri menopause symptoms). I changed my toothpaste, deodorant, soap, shampoo, washing liquid etc
And perhaps one of the most important things I did……
I had an honest conversation with my family. Especially my husband. About what I was going through- perimenopause and the symptoms and how it was effecting and hurting my daily life.
That conversation changed our dynamic.Today, we’re in a place that feels peaceful, loving and far more understanding than we were a few years ago. 🥹
One thing I’d like to highlight is that, this is NOT a blueprint. It’s simply my experience.What worked for me may not be exactly what works for someone else. Every woman is different- every body is different, each journey and symptoms different.
But if there’s one thing this part of the ride has taught me, it’s that small, consistent changes can completely shift the direction and how u feel in life. And perhaps more importantly, nothing needs to be fix all at once.
To everyone who’s kind and generous enough to share your own story—thank you. It means more than you know. Please keep sharing your experiences. And if you don’t feel comfortable sharing publicly, you’re always welcome to message me privately. ❤️
With love, Franki
