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05/09/2026

AITA for not wanting to be the primary caregiver to my a__oholic MIL?

I 53F have been married to my husband Joe 55M for almost 30 years. Joe’s mother Winnie is 79. Winnie has heavily abused alcohol and prescription drugs for most of her adult life. It has gotten really bad during the last 20 years. Winnie becomes verbally abusive when she drinks and takes pills. Winnie has taken great measures to conceal it from her family doctor.

In the past, I have brought up this with my husband Joe and his family. This discussion has never gone well. Joe’s siblings have told me to stay out of it, and this has not been easy, so I have stayed away on many occasions. The entire immediate family has always swept it under the carpet.

No one has ever taken my concerns seriously until two weeks ago when my MIL had a bad fall and was taken to the hospital. They were trying to cover up the drinking and prescription misuse, but my husband Joe decided to come clean and let the ER doctor know, and he even spoke to Winnies family doctor. The family doctor was grateful and has ordered a lot of medical tests.

Now everyone is worried about her, but now that it’s clear Winnie needs a caregiver but no one wants to help. It was suggested I become the caregiver since I am currently not working (but I am actively looking for a job). Joe’s family suggested I live with Winnie Monday-Friday and then go home on the weekends to get a break. They plan on getting a PSW worker to stay with her on...

05/09/2026

AITA for not taking my cousin's stepkids out with me when I take her daughter?

My cousin J. got pregnant when she was 19. She was out of high school and lived with our grandparents. It was not a good time for her.

Her half brother and I were both in grade twelve and we had jobs. We decided to help her out. Of our own free will. No one asked us to or asked is for money. We just love her and knew she needed support. She had a girl named Calli. We helped buy diapers and formula. We babysat so J. could work and go out every once in a while.

J. Met a nice guy and married him two years ago. He has two kids from a previous relationship that he gets on the weekends.

Calli is 12 now and I still hang out with her.

Lately J. has been asking me to take out her stepkids when I take Calli out. I told her no. I don't really know those kids and I don't really want to be responsible for them. I like spoiling my little cousin but that's it. She has been great practice for when I have kids. Plus I love being a bad influence on her. I just took her s***t shooting and we are going to an ax throwing place where you can also use knives or throwing stars.

J. says that I'm creating a schism between her kids because Calli comes back from hanging out with me and the other kids get jealous. She says I should take all the kids or stop doing stuff with Calli. Calli heard...

05/09/2026

WIBTA if I reported my neighbour for running a car detailing business from home?

So my 18 year old neighbour has been running a car detailing business from home for a couple of years now. It stared off small, so maybe 1 car a day 3/4 times a week and is now about 7/8 cars a day almost every day. He does a range of services from a simple external wash to steam cleaning and washing the seats and engine cleaning and makes a fair bit of money from it. The main issue is the fact that the way he is operating is illegal and breaks the environmental protection laws. He washes the cars on the street and lets the dirty water and chemicals go into the main street drains. Here in the UK, to do so is illegal, although councils will turn a blind eye if it's your own personal car. However, car wash businesses are normally held under even stricter rules and have to store waste water separately and send it off for treatment due to the chemicals before it can be disposed of. Whilst I haven't been bothered with his business, we are currently entering drought conditions and with him washing cars all day and paying a residential rate as opposed to business water rates, this is something which is making me think double about this. So WIBTA, if I reported him for breaking the law? Edit: Thanks to those who have given some advice on how I should go about this instead of just reporting him I will speak to let him know about the legalities of the situation instead of just reporting him and figure out what...

05/09/2026

AITAH for not wanting to travel far after giving birth?

My husband and I (F) had a deep conversation last night. I could tell something was off - he was quiet and not acting like his normal self. I asked him what was going on, and he admitted that he would like to take some time off prior to the baby coming (I’m 17 weeks). He wants to get the house more settled, along with focusing more on his fitness journey. He's been really struggling with gaining weight and hasn't been feeling the best. He’s a 1099 working, he’s getting burnt out, and I make a decent income to let him take a break. Immediately, I agreed and asked how I could help. We sat there and discussed the details, figuring out how I can support him.

The issue came up when he brought up us visiting his home country, Venezuela. Since coming to the US, he hasn’t gone back, and it’s been almost 9 years. Traveling back has been brought up multiple times throughout our marriage, and I have supported the idea of him traveling back. We’ve even discussed him going alone due to the political climate. I’ve had multiple of his friends warning me in the past not to visit yet, that I cannot hide the fact that I’m a g__ngo from the US, and could get kidnapped. With the recent changes, he’s hoping that it will be easier for me to travel there with no issues.

He mentioned that we should go soon - maybe during my maternity leave. I vocalized how I didn’t want to plan it during that time due to...

04/09/2026

AITA for not explaining our family heritage to my son?

I (mid 30s F) moved to Canada from India about 2 years ago with my husband and our son (10). He goes to a private school here and overall has adjusted pretty well, made friends, picked up the culture etc.

Most of his close friends are boys around his age who are also from Indian families or at least have Indian heritage. We never really emphasized background or labels at home. I honestly didn’t think it mattered, especially not here.

Recently though something happened that’s caused a lot of tension.

Apparently one of the boys in his group told him he shouldn’t sit with them anymore. When my son asked why, he was told by that boy (and later confirmed by the boy’s parents apparently) that our caste is “Shudra” and that it’s not appropriate for their son to associate with him.

My son came home really upset and confused. He asked me what that meant and why I never told him. He said he felt humiliated because everyone else seemed to understand something about him that he didn’t even know himself.
He’s now angry at me for not explaining our “heritage” earlier, saying I set him up to be embarrassed in front of his friends.

The thing is, I genuinely didn’t think it mattered anymore. Even back in India, in the city we lived in, it wasn’t something people around us really focused on in daily life. Our family is very educated, financially stable, and socially well integrated. We never experienced it as something defining in our...

04/09/2026

WIBTA for not allowing my wife-to-be to pay respect to me on our wedding day?

I (34m) am Asian and grew up in Asia until 14 when I went to school in the US. I’ve been studying/working here since while most my family still lives where I come from.

I’m currently engaged to Anna (29f). She’s a white American. My family is not against me marrying a foreigner but insists we have our wedding back in my home country, traditional style. Anna is a mellow person and is very open-minded. She has great respect for my culture and is willing to have our wedding as my family dictates.

One of our traditions, ancient…not many modern couples do it now, is that on the wedding day the bride, in front of all the guests, is supposed to pay respect to the groom, by bowing down to his feet. It’s to show that she is wiling to obey her husband and treats him like the protector in her life. It puts the wife in a lower position than the husband.

Anna sees this as part of my tradition and said she will do it. I refuse to let her. I think it’s deeply disrespectful to the bride. Anna doesn’t understand the full implications of the act.

Now my family is mad at me. They said Anna is fine so I should just get with the program. WIBTA?

04/09/2026

AITA for not caring for my sister?

I'm one of three kids from my mom's first marriage. My parents divorced when I was 7, and my mom dated multiple men before having my sister with 'Mike,' who had serious issues and was cut out of her life. Since my sister was 9 months old, she slept in my room, and I was forced to care for her constantly.

My mom called me 'Mommy #2' even though I had no interest in taking care of her. My brothers weren't expected to help because they're boys, so whenever I wasn't at my dad's, I had to watch my sister while my mom took breaks or did chores. One night, at 1 AM on a school night, my sister was crying.

I ignored it, hoping my mom would handle it. After 10 minutes, my mom angrily took care of her and called me selfish, giving me the silent treatment for a day. She still brings it up.

After three years, I protested more, and my mom finally made my brothers help, but she still calls me my sister's 'mother.' She insists I should have maternal instincts just because I'm a girl. She also says that when my sister turns six, my brothers and I will be responsible for her schoolwork. I have to entertain her, share my console, and even give her my food when she whines otherwise, I get yelled at.

I avoid leaving my room because as soon as my mom sees me, she dumps my sister on me. Now, I wonder if I'm selfish. My mom is raising my sister alone,...

04/09/2026

My Husband 29M called me 29F a burden, how do I get past it?

Edit for more info:

I keep seeing a couple of the same questions, and a few people saying I'm lazy for wanting any help. So I want to give more context.

I don't ask him for help. My husband works a very hard job. He is a welder and works 12 hour days for 14 days in a row, and then off 2 weeks.

I only ever want him to help with the kids, I can manage the house. And not even really help just want him to spend time with the kids.

Also i know everything is saying leave or threaten to leave. I almost left. Right after he said it he apologized because he knew he messed up. But I was preparing to leave. I told him that and that is what led to us talking. But because of this I do have a way to leave if it doesn't get better and I have too.

Also my husband didn't except me to do his hair well or get mad at me. I'm the one who had those thoughts

However you guys made me realize how unresolved it is though so I will be talking to him again.

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For context we have two children 4 and 1, I stay home with them, and he works. That week I signed our eldest up for a camp that was a couple hours Monday to Friday for spring break. I dropped them off and went to do activities with the youngest. Each day I came home...

04/09/2026

AITA for pointing out that i've realised my wife hugely favourites our son, opposed to her daughters?

I've been with my wife for over 20 years. She had 2 daughters from her previous marriage, and we also have a son together. My wife has always insisted that i stay out of the parenting - when the girls were young i tried to take them on a walk without her and she was furious and since then, i've never tried to be involved. I'm the breadwinner and she's a stay at home mom.

It's come to my attention that my wife plays favourites with our family, and doesn't actually treat her two daughters the same as our son. We have recently fallen out about it and she has told me that she is the parent and knows what she's doing, and I should stay out of it. So i want to ask AITA for noticing these things and pointing them out? I've just realised that the girls are feeling quite neglected. All three children are now adults (all in 20's).

We take my son on holidays and don't invite my daughters at all

My wife is telling the daughters to spend time with their friends over Christmas, rather than come home

My wife insisted my son needed a car so we bought him one, but when her daughters needed cars she was silent (our financial position has always been the same). She then lied to the daughters and said this was a loan to the son.

She cooks foods the daughters don't like, and just says 'tough', whereas makes a special dinner every night for my son

She stirs trouble...

03/09/2026

AITA for telling my sister who can't have kids that she does not get to be a part of naming mine and my wife's babies?

My older sister (34F) was born without the reproductive organs required to have a biological child. Because of her condition she also has some other health problems which disqualify her from adopting due to the uncertainty around her quality and length of life. She was aware for most of her life that she couldn't have biological children.

That was discovered when she was still very young but the rest came throughout her 20s. She had dreams of motherhood and had lists of baby names she wanted to use. But she will never be able to use them on children that are hers.

What I (28M) did not know at the time was she had saved her baby names and was hoping she would get to name or help name my future children. My wife (27F) and I are expecting our first child. We haven't announced the s__ but my sister thinks we're having a girl and shared her girl names with us.

We thanked her and said we (wife and I) would discuss what the name would be at some point. My sister looked upset by the response and she then shared her boy names thinking she got it wrong. We gave her the same response.

My mom suggested a couple of months ago that it would be generous and kind to let my sister have some input. I told her we felt it was better if we named our child ourselves. My wife and I did look at the list, just to see if we liked any of the names.

We did...

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