30/08/2021
Coffee carts and kindness. š
āEarly childhood was chaotic; my brother and I endured a lot of abuse. Having one another helped. It was sort of: āHey, at least thereās another human with me.ā Weāve handled our trauma differently over the years. My brother doesnāt trust authority, and heās been arrested in seven different states. It usually involves some sort of power struggle with police. His last altercation was in Texas, and it landed him in solitary confinement for 18 months. It couldnāt have come at a worse time. Law school was kicking my ass. I was living off student loans, so I didnāt have the cash to go visit him as often as I wanted. I was drinking a lot. On weekend nights Iād stumble out of the subway at 3 AM or 4 AM, after the bars had closed. And Abe, my coffee cart guy, would be outside my station-- setting up for the day. Heād talk s**t to me before giving me a bagel and water. Then heād walk me to my building to make sure I got home safe. He was my late-night safeguard in addition to my morning barista. The 8AM line was long, so we had a cheat system. Iād send him a text when I was leaving my place, and heād have a paper bag with my food and coffee waiting for me inside the cart window. On Saturdays when it was slower, Iād sit on a crate behind the cart and weād talk for hours. He became a best friend. He introduced me to his wife and children. I learned that his cart supports some of his family back in Egypt, and thatās why he hadnāt taken a day off in almost twenty years. I told him about my family too. Mainly I talked about my brotherās incarceration. Others advised me to cut him off, but never Abe. He told me not to give up on my family. During one of our Saturday conversations, I mentioned that I couldnāt afford to go see my brother. I was careful how I phrased it, because I didnāt want Abe to think I was asking for help. But the following Monday morning when I grabbed my paper bag from inside the window, there was another bag rolled up inside. I thought it may be a chocolate croissant that heād sneak in sometimes, but it was $3000. I said, āAbe no f**kinā way,ā but he wouldnāt take it back. āPay me back whenever,ā he said. āAnd go see your brother as much as you need.āā