Ménage Chez Toi

Ménage Chez Toi Professional and discreet housekeeper dedicated to meeting your needs with efficiency and care.

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I've been putting off this post hoping for some kind of miracle but it's time to officially update. Nearly two months ag...
11/30/2025

I've been putting off this post hoping for some kind of miracle but it's time to officially update. Nearly two months ago I was diagnosed with Myalgic encephalomyelitis/chronic fatigue syndrome. I have been struggling keeping up with even 15hrs of work for months, and at the end of October I had to take lyfts to/from work until finally I have been completely unable to work since November 5th, and have only left my house six times this month.

In the past ten years later I've slowly built a business with the most wonderful clients, I adore every single one of them and this job is really a dream come true. They have been so patient and kind with me the past couple years, always letting me reschedule whenever I was inexplicably sick, and especially recently when I was not fully reliable.

The way my clients have showed up for me in the past couple weeks is incredible. From delivering paid for groceries or door dash gift certificates, hand cooked meals and baked goods, to gifting me a brand new countertop dishwasher so I can keep my own house clean..... That consideration and care means the world to me. I can't properly express how grateful I am 🩷 I'm always championing how important community care is and it's been humbling and touching being on the receiving end of that. Thank you all for showing up for me, I appreciate you immensely!!

I don't know if I'll ever be able to return to work, but I have met a wonderful cleaner who shares my values, works hard, has a huge heart and has agreed to take my clients indefinitely. I've only had excellent feedback about them, if you're interested in a referral please don't hesitate to contact me.

If you're interested in donating to help with necessities/bills please DM me 🩷

Thank you everyone, you're the best!

Love,
Your scrub daddy dealer

PS- if you're disappointed I'm not leaving peppermint thumbprint cookies in your house over the holidays, DM me and you can pick up!! 🩷

I deeply regret not taking the group when it was offered to me, we lost a great resource in Montreal! Please never hesit...
10/15/2025

I deeply regret not taking the group when it was offered to me, we lost a great resource in Montreal! Please never hesitate to reach out if you need referrals, I'm pro supporting the cleaning community, there's no competition here!

It's taken me a long time to fully understand that when I offer to clean for people they can interpret it as me saying:-...
07/15/2025

It's taken me a long time to fully understand that when I offer to clean for people they can interpret it as me saying:

- you don't know how to clean
- you aren't good enough or responsible
- you are messy, dirty and unorganized
- you are lazy and can't take care of yourself
- you clearly need help and it's pathetic
- you aren't hygienic and it's obvious
- you need professional help, I can do it better

Nearly every time a person is reactive, and even if they do secretly wish for somebody to clean for them, their next thought is: hired help is for wealthy people, that's a luxury expense. (Infact, 75% of my clients are not living with financial freedom)

Every person I've met has some kind of guilt or shame around their home. "I'm so sorry for the mess". "I've been so busy I haven't had time to....". "I should have dealt with this, I promise I'll do it before you come". They either think they're worse or better than my other clients, and I hate to tell you this, 9/10 times if you think you're "worse", you're often tidier than the people who don't even see the mess. We all have homes that are lived in and view it through different lenses, no way is more valid.

I wish people heard my offer to help as what it really is, an offer of care. What I'm saying is:

I see how hard you work, and I admire that so much, I bet your exhausted when you're at home and just want to relax, not do more work.
Or
I care about you, and I want to show my love and care through actions that I know will make things feel easier for you.
Or
I see that you're having a hard time emotionally and I would like to make your home environment clean and tidy because I know that will affect your mental health positively.
Or
I don't have the financial freedom to buy you the little gift or dinner or treat that I wish I could to show you my care, but I can use my skills in your home to take some tasks off your list.
Or
You're a wonderful human and I think you're amazing and I want to do nice things for you, just because!

Another thing I'm learning about myself is that I have a neurodivergent brain, and I don't always know how to connect with people but I want to take care of everybody. Not because they can't care for themselves, but because I just really really care about people. And I really see people, I'm thinking about them and I am best at showing that through actions.

So when I'm offering to "clean" it means so many different things, it's different with every single person.

It could mean
- I've heard you complain about having to cook after work and how exhausting that is, so I want to wipe out the kitchen shelves and drawers and organize everything, I want to organize your spices and make your knives and cutting boards easily accessible. I want to clean out your fridge and pantry so you can find things easily. I want to make cooking feel organized, efficient and enjoyable for you again, or at least as bearable as possible.
Or
- I see that you've been working evenings and weekends and you have no time for your hobbies, I want to organize your board games and craft bins and clear an area so when you do find time it's fast to start and you can maximize your fun time as much as possible.
Or
- I know you've been having a hard time with the way the world is and I'm so impressed by how functional you are and how capable you are in keeping your home so clean, can I please take on a project that you don't have time for? Clean your oven, dig out the crumbs in your produce drawer, match and organize your socks so you don't have to search through them when you're getting ready, organize under your bathroom sink, organize that corner of your basement or garage that you pretend doesn't exist?
Or
- I don't know you well but I think you look like a wonderful human and I want to foster community and connection and I want to do something kind for you with my skills, so I hope you invite me to care for something in your home

And that's my truth, my purpose. I just want to take care of people, community, family, strangers.

I can't fix your computer, tune up your bike, bake you anything impressive, cut your hair, or drive your moving truck. And to be quite honest, I really suck at empathetic listening and emotional labour, no matter how hard I try to be better, I feel like quite a failure at that.

And to be honest, I'm no Ann Russell, I'm not a cleaning expert. I can't tell you cleaning tips passed through generations. I don't know a lot of things. But I do know how to care for people's homes and my heart is the best cleaning tool I've got.

Another thing I know for sure is, no matter your mental health stability, political beliefs, financial status, functionality and capability, every single person is feeling a sense of "what is going on in this world" kind of concern or dread. There's a disconnection and whether it's through screens, being overwhelmed or underwhelmed......an avoidance is building inside us towards something. And I believe that community care is what will unite us. If we all share our skills with each other, we will be connecting in the very basic way of humans, and I think that's important and beautiful.

So please, let people care for you, invite them to, and if that's hard, start with me. I promise you, yes I really do want to care for you, you deserve it 🩷

January photo dump ✨ meta won't let me connect the accounts anymore 🤷‍♀️
03/20/2025

January photo dump ✨ meta won't let me connect the accounts anymore 🤷‍♀️

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12/30/2024

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This is a Dean appreciation post, he's my longest running work doggy. I was asked twice this week if I work in homes wit...
10/26/2024

This is a Dean appreciation post, he's my longest running work doggy. I was asked twice this week if I work in homes with dogs and the answer is absolutely! Dean has been a client since 2017 (photos posted from most recent to oldest). He likes to rub himself up and down the hallway walls, howl along when he hears sirens outside, and periodically check on what I'm doing if I'm in the kitchen. He's a very well behaved handsome boy 🩷

I realized recently it was December 2015 when I got my first real paid cleaning job! As I get closer to 10 years I think...
10/20/2024

I realized recently it was December 2015 when I got my first real paid cleaning job! As I get closer to 10 years I think it's a good time to post an update on my business, experience, ethics, and maybe even a photo of who I am 🩷

I took this job reluctantly, frustrated that I was struggling so hard to learn French and desperate for a stable job. I had zero experience cleaning, was a young mother raised by a single father and cleaning was never a taught skill or priority in my life.
Nearly 10 years later, I have fallen deeply in love with this job. It's not that I love to clean toilets or am gifted at folding fitted sheets. It's that I absolutely love taking care of people. I love seeing how people live, learning who they are and how they need to be cared for, and when I understand their needs and how they need to be supported is when I can work my magic. The more I learn about them the more I learn about myself. For example I've learned I have auditory processing disorder which is why I have been unable to learn French, and have been able to share the knowledge of this disability with two households who also benefited from learning about it!

My clients are all different, I've worked for doctors, lawyers, writers, burlesque dancers, artists, hair dressers (plus 2 local salons), baristas, chefs and restaurant owners, dominatrixes, comedians, famous graffiti muralists, students, pornhub executives, massage therapists, activists, and many many people in video games (including a video games studio for a couple of years!).

Through all these years I've learned how to intuit what people need to make their homes feel functional to help their mental health and let them feel less stress.
I've been trusted to see people when they are most vulnerable, through breakups and breakdowns, moves and losses, through joyful celebration, promotions, engagements, new additions to the family, changes of every kind. Seeing how people live their lives inspires me to put so much love and thought into my work, every client deserves consideration and care.
What I've learned from people and the way they live is, no matter your amount of privilege, no matter your mental health or income, we all are humans who need to feel taken care of, especially through a pandemic and into our "new normal" of 2024. Whether that's an organized knife drawer and spice shelf for a chef or neatly folded drawers of clothes for an overworked underpaid single parent, we are all looking for the ease of organization and cleanliness to make our lives function more smoothly.

Through my vast array of client experience and my own personal life, I've come to excel in helping clients who have ADHD, are neurodivergent, or who struggle with their mental health.
I prioritize clients who are people of colour and/or LGBTQIA2S+, and am especially interested in homes located near Little Italy.
I reserve a minimum of 2 days a month which are donated hours, I am currently prioritizing activists involved in: fighting for a Free Palestine, Jews against Genocide, or any Trans Rights. If you or anyone you know would benefit from this please don't hesitate to ask for this service! (There is no qualification, it's an honour system)
I also offer personalized cleaning lessons and organization services (my secret superpower✨).
I am shy about asking clients to take pictures in their homes and quite honestly I'm not good at updating my social media or advertising, I have relied almost exclusively on personal references since 2018. But I have extensive references and photos available to anyone!

My standards fees:
I have a minimum of 3hrs for $125, then it's $35/hr after that
My home organization fees are $45-65/hr

Cleaning includes laundry washing and folding, bedding washed and changed, bathrooms, light organization, kitchen, dusting and tidying all surfaces, mirrors, vacuuming and mopping.

*Please understand I work efficiently, practice accountability, am trustworthy, and have extensive experience and perfect references which is included in these prices
**These prices are negotiable, but whenever possible I strive to keep these as the minimum to ensure I can donate hours to those in need as often as possible. For full transparency, I average $2000/a month, which is minimum wage

I am deeply grateful for all the trust and vulnerability that's been shared with me, I love this job more and more every year. I believe that by taking care of each other we are taking care of ourselves and bettering our community 🩷🩷

You vs me 😍
01/27/2024

You vs me 😍

09/16/2023

One thing about me is I'm not good at updating my social media for work. The main reason is because I don't like asking clients to take pictures in their home, even though I often want to it just doesn't feel appropriate. Consent and discretion are really important to me. But lately I find myself wanting to share the joy I'm experiencing at work, so I thought I would try writing about it.

This week I had a new client who was referred by an old client. They had injured themselves and had a mobility issue they were recovering from and needed some help keeping up. I was really excited to step in, I'm also recovering from a year long hip injury and I understand how frustrating the limitations are. I was looking forward to the day, the first cleans are often my favourite because they are the most rewarding.

But this day had something else in mind. The cleaning went fine. But I knocked a piece off the stove and it fell behind it, which I had to dig out with BBQ tongs. Then I stepped back from the sink and almost stepped on their foster cat. Then I knocked a picture off the wall. Then I sent a small tin box flying from the top of the microwave. Then I picked up a frame and the glass and picture slid out and fell onto the couch. I knew that all my client heard from the other room was me gasping and scrambling every time it happened. Luckily I didn’t damage anything, but mistakes so rarely happen these days and the fact that it was all happening at once in one house was honestly becoming comical.

I decided to take a minute and do something familiar and relaxing that I couldn’t fumble, and so I cleaned the sink. Polishing a stainless steel sink is my favourite touch. It’s a small way to reset myself, familiarize myself with something that is pretty much the same in every house and it always looks so shiny ✨

After that everything went smoothly, the clean ended really well, everything was intact and I am fairly certain I will be invited back. I am grateful when clients handle me with grace, even when I don’t🩷🩷

Today at work I made bacon steak nachos and garlic spinach and chicken pizzas 😍
03/24/2023

Today at work I made bacon steak nachos and garlic spinach and chicken pizzas 😍

Instead of live laugh scream this year, let's Live Laugh ✨Clean✨ this Spring! I'm now taking new clients!
03/18/2023

Instead of live laugh scream this year, let's Live Laugh ✨Clean✨ this Spring! I'm now taking new clients!

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