03/08/2025
Narcissists ignore their parenting duties on purpose and then wrongly say that you are keeping the children away from them 😤. It’s one of the most manipulative tactics they use—abandoning their responsibilities, missing out on milestones, failing to show up emotionally or physically for their children—and then flipping the script to make it look like you're the one standing in the way of their relationship. They want to play the victim while dodging accountability. They refuse to co-parent, but they’re quick to claim you’re “alienating” them when in reality, they were never present in the first place.
They will pretend to care only when it’s convenient for them—usually when someone’s watching, or when they need a weapon to use against you. Their goal isn't to be a parent. It's to maintain control over you, to manipulate public perception, and to make you look like the problem so they don't have to confront the fact that they’ve failed as a parent. They thrive on confusion and chaos, and they’ll do anything to avoid responsibility while still reaping the benefits of looking like a “good parent” to others.
But what they don’t understand is this: consistency, presence, and love cannot be faked forever. Children grow older. They remember who dried their tears, who helped them with homework, who showed up for school events, doctor appointments, and sleepless nights. They may be fooled for a while, but in time, they’ll see through the lies. And when that day comes, the narcissist will be left with nothing but the consequences of their own choices—because parenting is not about performance. It's about presence, and love, and sacrifice. And no amount of manipulation can cover up the absence they left behind. 🥺