11/06/2026
I’ve shared a lot of content on building up my self-worth + releasing my need for external validation recently, and I wanted to share the process I go through with my 1:1 clients, so that you know exactly what to expect from working with me 🙏
Note: the order may shift, depending on where you are when we start, but this is broadly what our work together looks like:
✅ STOP THE BEHAVIOUR We press pause on your external validation behaviour. Not forever, not all at once - but we start to notice it, name it, and interrupt the pattern.
✅ GET REAL We take a look at all of the people, places, and online spaces where you’re regularly seeking and receiving validation. A lot of clients find this fun once they get into it! 😅
✅ CHILDHOOD PRAISE Were you praised for good behaviour and putting others first? For achievements, grades, winning, performing? What you were praised for tells us a lot about where you’re still seeking approval as an adult.
✅ SELF-VALIDATION This looks different for everyone, and that’s the point. For some people it’s a growth list. For others it’s a simple phrase we uncover together - something that begins to remind you of your own value. I noticed early on in my own journey that “I am worthy” didn’t land for me at all, but “I am unique” did. We find your version of that together.
✅ WHAT’S MISSING? This is where it gets interesting. We explore what experiences, emotions, or creative outlets were missing in your childhood - and we look at how to fill those gaps. For me, that looked like taking up burlesque and getting back into sewing. Both have given me more genuine pride, growth, and comfort zone stretching than almost anything else in my adult life.
✅ SELF-TRUST We look at who you currently turn to when you have a decision to make, and we start to gently bring that authority back to you. One of the questions I constantly come back to in my own life, and with my clients is simply: “What’s one thing I can do right now that will move me forwards?” It sounds small. It isn’t.
✅ ONGOING SUPPORT One thing that was missing on my own journey was having someone in my corner between the big moments which is why...
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